My wife ignores me, shouldI find love elsewhere?

I am 42, married for 15 years and we have three children. My wife, let’s call her LL, is a strong woman. She runs a successful catering business and is always busy.

She is respected in our community and people admire her. But Biggie, I feel invisible in my own home. LL is always on her phone, always attending functions and always chasing contracts.

When she comes home, she is exhausted. She barely looks at me. We sleep in the same bed, but it feels like we are worlds apart.

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I try to talk to her, but she says I am being insecure. She insists she is working hard for the family. I appreciate that, but I miss her attention.

I miss the days when she used to laugh at my jokes, when she used to dress up for me and when she used to ask how my day was. Now, I find myself tempted. There is a young lady at my office who listens to me, who compliments me, who makes me feel alive again, she is well-endowed, too and very much single.

I have not crossed the line yet, but I am thinking about it. Biggie, I don’t want to be a cheater. But I also don’t want to die slowly in silence.

Should I confront my wife, or should I look for happiness elsewhere? Let me tell you something straight: cheating is not a solution, it is an escape. And escapes are temporary.

You will enjoy the thrill for a moment, but the guilt will follow you forever. Your wife is not ignoring you because she doesn’t care. Many women today are juggling careers, homes, children and sometimes they forget their husbands also need attention.

That does not mean she has stopped loving you. But you must speak up. Not with anger, not with accusations, but with honesty.

Tell her how you feel. Tell her you miss her. Tell her you want her time.

Sometimes women need to be reminded that their husbands are not just providers, but also partners who crave affection. If she listens, you will rebuild your bond. If she refuses, then you must decide whether to endure or to walk away.

But don’t destroy your marriage with secret affairs. That path will only bring pain to you, your wife and your children. Biggie always says: temptation is like fire; it warms you when controlled, but it burns you when left unchecked.

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