SUCCESS takes an intentional effort and as such a thriving woman is one that has made a decision to grow spiritually, relationally, mentally, financially and emotionally In this column I (JN) interview Shamiso Kenneth (SK) She is the author of the book, A Thriving Woman JN: What does personal growth look like beyond career and relationships
SK:Personal growth is the bedrock that sponsors the career and relationships It’s inclusive of mental and emotional development of an individual JN: How do you know if your partner is helping you grow — or holding you back SK:Growth is measurable, one can tell that they have moved from point A to point B and if the distinction is not there then one might be stagnant
You can tell your partner is making you grow when you can suddenly do things you couldn’t do without them or do better what you could only do good If they belittle or devalue “every” small achievement or dream that you understand and know you have or will thrive in it, then they are holding you back The Bible says when two are better than one so if a novice becomes confident then we can measure growth JN: Let’s talk about competition and competitiveness
How do we avoid competition, as you stay competitive SK:Competition is classified in two We have healthy competition and unhealthy competition All acts are separated by motives, if motive is combined goals then it’s all good
JN: What are the subtle signs of emotional or psychological abuse SK:To the abused person at times there is low self-esteem Always on extremely defensive mode because they are used to being blamed for everything Confusion and loss of memory
The brain is shut down causing depression and built up anger Gaining weight and bad skin Fear of opening up to your partner even on big decisions
To the abuser, manipulative behaviours that makes the next person feel like they are of no value Gas lighting happens when a partner continually undermines and distorts their partner’s reality by denying the truth and facts, the situation around them, or their partner’s feelings and needs
Inflicting pain without any remorse Verbal words like “You are not enough” Source: NewsDay Zimbabwe
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Source: Newsday
