I am a side-chick. I have been seeing a married man for two years now. At first, I was fine with the secrecy — the late‑night calls, the hidden dinners, the rushed meetups when he said he was “working late.” But now I want more.
I think I have sacrificed a lot for him, yet I feel I am not getting a better bargain from the relationship. I want the same attention his wife gets. I want him to post me on Facebook, to take me to family functions, to call me openly during the day.
I want him to buy me gifts without hiding receipts, to celebrate my birthday with the same pomp he gives his wife. The problem is, every time I ask for more, he reminds me that I am “just the side.” He says he loves me, but he cannot risk his marriage. I feel like I am giving him everything; my time, my body, my loyalty, but I am treated like a secret.
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BMW, am I wrong to demand the same attention as his wife? Or should I accept that I will always be second best? You are not wrong to want attention.
Every woman wants to be seen, valued and celebrated. But here is the truth: you are asking for something that is not yours to claim. A wife has a title, a ring, a home and a place in society.
A side chick has borrowed time, hidden affection, and promises written in sand. You cannot demand equality in a relationship built on secrecy. If he gives you the same attention as his wife, it means he has no respect for either of you.
And if he hides you, it means you are living in the shadows. Either way, you lose. If you want full attention, find a man who is free to give it.
Otherwise, accept your role or walk away before you drown in disappointment. Rush to those numerous lonely men of your type before it is too late.
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