If I were to ask you how you are right now, I already know the answer. You are tired. Bone-deep tired.
The kind of tired that rest does not always fix. I know that Dezemba came and went, and instead of slowing down, you had to be everything to everyone; the planner, the cook, the emotional anchor, the safe place. And you know what – that is totally valid.
But mama here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough and that is, at some point you have to choose yourself. And what does that look like in 2026? Grab a coffee and let’s dig.
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Here are five Dos and Don’ts to help you set yourself up for a better year ahead, one where you are no longer last on the list. Please DON’T wait for “quiet time” to magically appear because it won’t. I say this gently, while holding your hand.
Your peace lives in the hours when no one else is awake. Even 30 minutes before the house wakes up can change everything for you. Your nervous system, your patience, your clarity.
This is the time to pray, journal, stretch, sit in silence or simply breathe without being needed by any of the people that I know you love. Listen when I say that waiting for rest later in the day rarely works out. I can’t tell you how many times this has had me on my yoga mat with a four-year-old and a one-year-old using me as a jungle gym while I was in Warrior II pose.
Girl, DON’T waste energy on daily outfit decisions. Steve Jobs was on to something. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, having a simple uniform is a game-changer.
What I can say with my chest (that’s feeding and sustaining a one-year-old) is that it’s done wonders for me. Decision fatigue is so real. As moms, we make thousands of macro and micro decisions daily from the moment we wake up to the moment we fall asleep (and sometimes even in our dreams; if you know you know).
Reduce the small decisions so you have capacity for the important ones. This is so good for you because this means that you will do less thinking which will result in feeling less overwhelmed. And ultimately more at ease.
Yay to being a regulated mamacita in 2026! DON’T let the week ambush you. What used to catch me off-guard was not the big things.
It was the small, unplanned ones. School requirements, grocery runs, appointments, content deadlines and emotional check-ins with everyone else because we’re not just moms, right?
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